A computer glitch deleted this post. I will rewrite and respost in the next week or so. Thanks for your patience. With hope, Wendy
When your Inner-circle peeps ask, "How are you?"
Rules of engagement are different for people in your inner circle. If you are unwell, here’s my personal take on answering, “How are you?” Your needs are the top priority but not the only priority. Maintaining healthy relationships with close family and friends is important and requires an ongoing investment of time and meaningful communication.
Read moreHealing Phrases for Answering "How are You?"
In my prior post, I shared that the phrase, “unwell but good enough” helps me when people close to me ask, “How are you?” A reader’s comment about the downside of that answer in social situations prompted me to expand the discussion to help clarify which phrases help me and why.
Read moreHealing Power of Mutually Understood Phrases
Agreed-on words or phrases have been lifesavers for me and the people close to me. While dealing with my ongoing health challenges, I began answering the question, “How are you?” with a short phrase that helps us take care of each other’s needs.
Read moreThe Healing Power of Mutually Understood Phrases
Agreed-on words or phrases have been lifesavers for me and the people close to me. While dealing with my ongoing health challenges, here’s a phrase I began using to answer “How are you?” in a way that helps us take care of each other’s needs: Unwell, but good enough.
Read moreA First Step to Dealing with Feeling Guilty
What do you do If feeling guilty because your illness is causing stress or problems for others?
Read moreThe Power of Patient's Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame can complicate life during and after illness. Over the years of my cancer survivorship, I’ve strived to find healthy responses, efforts that began with exploring the similarities and differences between those two emotions.
Read moreA Space for Self-Care
Hester Hill Schnipper’s columns present useful advice in a straightforward and comforting way. This gifted social worker (Chief of Oncology Social Work at Boston’s Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center) did it again
Read moreDo you have a problem or a dilemma?
If a challenge upsets you, it may help to distinguish whether you have a problem or a dilemma.
Read moreMagic Wand Communications
Looking for new ways to help your problem solving? Try using a magic wand.
Read moreDon't Do Survivorship Alone
A short video intended to make a point about parenting somehow made me see in a new way a message about Healthy Survivorship, one I’ve been sharing for decades:
Read morePatient-focused versus Patient-centered
Do you prefer patient-focused or patient-centered medical care? What’s the difference?
Read moreTips for Contacting Your Doctor's Office
t's stressful to wait for your doctor’s office to answer your calls or respond to your online messages. I wrote this handout to provide some clarification and to offer some tips on contacting your doctors between office visits. Hope it helps!
Read moreMinimizing the Pain of an Insignificant Loss
Managing loss is essential to healthy survivorship. The exercise of categorizing losses may help. Doing so may help you reflect on your response to a loss and see what more you can do—or what you can do differently.
Read more2-minute video on Healing Hope
Here’s a link to a 2-1/2-minute video in which I summarize my take on Healing Hope:
FocusOnOncology’s Dr. Wendy Harpham on Healing Hopes. Enjoy!
Physician-survivor Explains the Power of The New Normal
“I know this sounds crazy but all I want is a normal life.” Those were the words on my favorite refrigerator magnet decades ago during the years I was going in and out of cancer treatment. While understandable, my desire to go back to my old normal created problems.
Read moreFinding Hope While Facing a Worrisome Prognosis
In a 2 1/2-minute video, I get up close and personal to share my approach to finding hope when the prognosis is worrisome. You’ll see why a prognosis is not a prediction.
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